EDGEWORK
- Edgework is the practice through which you can discover a never-ending excitement about the Possibilities of life. Edgework has three steps: 1) Find an edge of your Box that excites you to explore. 2) Go to that edge and stay there (when you can Feel the excitement or see the edge you are at the edge). 3) Do Edgework Experiments. Edgework Experiments in intimacy produce tremendous nurturing for your relationship. There are four kinds of intimacies to explore with your partner. Choose physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual intimacy, or some combination, and do Edgework Experiments that feed and inspire your relationship. For example, when most of us think of physical intimacy we think of sex. Sure sex is one form of physical intimacy, but physical intimacy also includes dancing, singing, playing musical instruments, making art, doing theater, physical maintenance (combing hair, bathing, massage, physical therapy, cutting fingernails, brushing teeth...), martial arts, walking, picnics, eating, sports, swimming, sailing, washing dishes, cleaning out the garage, remodeling the house, gardening, and so on. Have fun! (The term "Edgework" was sparked by ideas in Seth Godin's practical little marketing book titled Free Prize Inside.) (See Be Wrong, Box, Experiment, Four Bodies, Intimacy)

EGO - (See Box )

EGO STATE - (See Adult )

EMOTIONS - Emotions are incomplete Feelings. Emotions have the same four categories as Feelings (anger, sadness, fear and gladness), but they come from the past. You had needs as a child that were not met. Those unmet childhood needs can never be fulfilled because they are needs of the past, not of the present. You have no power in the past. You cannot go back to change anything. Unmet childhood needs feel like a vast unfillable emptiness, especially when you are standing in front of the open refrigerator and looking for something that is not in there. Bringing unmet childhood needs into your Adult present creates Emotions. No matter how much you experience or express an Emotion nothing will change. A handy test is if what you think is a Feeling lasts for more than three minutes it is not a Feeling; it is an Emotion. (See Adult, Feelings)

EXPAND THE BOX - You built your Box to survive in the world. It works. You survived. But when you became capable of taking Responsibility around fifteen years of age, that which once protected you becomes your prison. The Box is then ready to shift Context from its original Defensive mode to its designed in Expansive mode. Can you remember what that feels like? To be ready to make that shift and then not have the chance? We do not make the shift from Defensive to Expansive because the shift is not sponsored by Western culture. To make the shift you must go beyond the culture to get it. There is no top end to Box expansion. Expanding the Box includes Stellating Archetypes. Since the Box is a solid, changing shape requires that it temporarily go through a Liquid State so that its structural components can reorganize with regards to each other. It helps if the training environment in which a Box Expands is clear and safe enough to encourage and protect the Liquid State. (See Box, Defensive Context, Expansive Context, Liquid State, Possibility Trainer, Starmaker, Stellating Archetypes)

EXPAND THE BOX TRAINING - The intense three-day training that delivers many of the core distinctions from Possibility Management. (See Box, Expand the Box, Possibility, Possibility Manager, Possibility Trainer)

EXPANSIVE CONTEXT - Through the equivalent of a "rite of passage" a Box can shift its basic strategy from Defensive to Expansive. When the Box is dedicated to Expanding itself then daily life involves serving Bright Principles such as adventure, exploration, impeccability, learning, growth, clarity, wonder, awe, mystery, surprise, communication, respect, discovery and so on. In the Expansive Context, Possibility is unlimited. Since Extraordinary Human Relationship and Archetypal Relationship only function in the Expansive Context, to go there it is helpful to develop a sensitivity to avoid being Hooked back into your Box's original Defensive Context. (See Box, Defensive Context, Expand the Box, Expansive Learning, Hooked, Low Drama Detector, Unhookable)

EXPANSIVE LEARNING - Expansive Learning was the original way you related to the world as a child. Expansive Learning readily accepts the unexpected because it does not assume that you already know everything. New pieces of knowledge can be appreciated for their own worth regardless of whether they fit into anything else that you understand or not. In school you learn Defensive Learning in which you fit new information into the knowledge continent of what you already know. Expansive Learning is useful for exploring new territories and gaining competencies in nonlinear skills. (See Defensive Learning, Experiment, Nonlinear, Stellating Archetypes)

EXPECTATIONS -Expectations are sleep-inducing fantasy Declarations made by the Box with the impossible intention of forcing the future to be the same as the past, or of forcing someone else to be the same as you. Expectations are one of the Box's most efficient tools for destroying the possibility of intimacy and for creating Low Drama. Expectations ruin relationships. Expectations are not far different from beliefs insofar as you can have Expectations about anything and there is no connection between an Expectation and reality. Expectations can also be used consciously as a way of shaping coincidences such as Expecting that your child is a genius, or Expecting that a miracle could happen. Using Expectation consciously is an advanced technique because you have to be Unhookable and completely able to drop the Expectation without residue if what you expect does not turn out to be what happens. Expectation is a creative act whether consciously or unconsciously directed. It has nothing to do with positive thinking. (See Box Mechanics, Declaring, Low Drama)

EXPERIENTIAL REALITY - Reality previous to being processed by the Box is Experiential Reality. Reality after processing is Verbal Reality. In Experiential Reality, experience is not limited to words or concepts. In Experiential Reality, experience leads. You communicate about your experience later, if you want to, by finding words to use as a bridge to cause the experience to occur is someone else's body. For example, before a person will buy something they must first experience the value that this product or service will provide for them in the future. With access to Experiential Reality a salesperson can create the experience of future value in a client so they are inspired to buy. Access to Experiential Reality also gives you the ability to appreciate and enjoy the fullness, richness, depth and complexity of life in a mysterious world. This appreciation improves relationships both personally and professionally. (See Inner Navigating, Mind, Relationship, Verbal Reality)

EXPERIMENT - The usual scientific image of the term "experiment" brings up an image of cold calculated testing, men in white coats putting electrodes on rats, mixing chemicals or shooting instruments into orbit. In Possibility Management an Experiment is an Action taken to explore what is Possible, what is true, or what works. To Experiment means to venture into New Territory and Expand the Box. Responsible Experimenting builds Matrix. (See Action, Edgework, Expansive Learning, Inner Navigating, Laboratory, Matrix, New Territory)

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